A new decade has officially begun, and many people are making resolutions for the current year, yet failing to plan for the decade.
As an example, some people focus on the year to set goals around weight loss and managing their finances, only to fall short of their goals during the first couple of months. Many would blame it on lack of motivation and distractions, and push things for the next year or decade. Leaving them at the same weight and financial state since they didn’t have the means to hold themselves accountable for their goals or resolutions.
I have seen this cycle take place in the last decade, and after watching many people fail with their new year -goals, resolutions, desires, etc. I stayed in the background and searched for a solution that I believe should be implemented into this new decade and beyond.
On that note, other people’s failures and some of my own led me to the solution of a big problem many of us shared relating to our goals and intentions.
As a result, I found that we cannot hold ourselves accountable in various areas of our lives- health, finances, relationships, spirituality, education, and our careers.
As Oprah once said, ” We are held accountable for every intention, which is why you are sitting where you are right now.”
The quote supports the reasoning as to why we tend to fail or lose focus on specific goals in our lives. Our intentions might be worthy, well thought out, organized, and ready to be taken head-on.
Yet we fail to realize what gets in the way to help us make it to the finish line, which is the amount of accountability we hold ourselves up against while working on the goal.
When we start to weigh in on our priorities in life with our desired goals/wants, things become off-balanced.
Our focus changes, the goals we set at the beginning are no longer upfront, and they begin to get pushed further away from the conscious, submerged into our subconscious waiting for retrieval and utilization, either the following year or decade.
The lost focus can typically happen because of changes to our environment, distractions, or the goals not set from the heart or soul, which may leave us held accountable for our failures.
Now to break this lost focus and regain control of our set goals, we have to make it clear to ourselves what is important and what can wait, to hold ourselves up for accountability.
Benefits of Holding Yourself Accountable
Most of the time, you will hear founders of businesses speak on accountability; it is usually implemented into the companies mission or goal. Since it is such an essential aspect of running a successful business, I figured it must be a key to having other successes in life.
After more research, I was right.
Accountability removes unnecessary distractions, builds confidence, improves your performance, and defines reality.
It makes you a better you. It helps you have more empathy for others, realize time waits for no one, and learn to appreciate the beauty and simplicity of things.
When you hold yourself accountable, you are choosing you. It helps you build trust within yourself, so you can trust others. All while achieving the life you want and surrounded by the people you need.
How to Hold Yourself Accountable
A couple of ways to hold yourself accountable would be the following listed below:
- Check-in with your self-talk: If you find yourself making excuses to keep you from obtaining your goals, resolve them. Once addressed, if you find yourself in a negative spiral of self-doubt, try to rephrase the resolution and or intention. Words play a significant role in helping us succeed and fail. You may not notice it, but there may be one negative term in your vocabulary that is holding you back from your full potential.
- Make your goal your top priority: In the bestselling book, The One Thing, it states, ” To achieve an extraordinary result you must choose what matters most and give it all the time it demands. This requires getting extremely out of balance in relation to all other work issues, with only infrequent counterbalancing to address them.” You will get out of balance with your routine to make your goal fit into your chosen lifestyle. Yes, many things will change, but you have to understand those changes are happening because your life is setting you up for the desired resolution you made.
- Find Someone to Hold You Accountable, aka Purpose Partner: Now, this person is not someone who enables you. This person must be hardcore, real as in no sugar coating, and has either done what you want to do or just as genuine as you are in wanting to accomplish the same goal.
Choosing accountability as your word of the decade may help you smile a little more, no matter what life may throw at you. Having someone by your side that you trust, and the confidence to trust yourself not only boosts your mood, but it also enhances your life.
By Krystle Mitchell