Book Title: Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life
Author: Nagoski, Emily
Genre: Nonfiction, Self-help, Sexual Health
For many years women have learned about their sexual wellbeing through studies tested on men. These studies have caused insecurities, sexual blockage, and confusion amongst many women. However, new research has found ways to help women and men have a better sex life that brings comfort and reduces stress.
Come As You Are is a self-help book for women who have questions about their bodies when engaging in sex. In the book, author, and Human sexuality professor Emily Nagoski shares anonymous stories from her clients and students, who have had problems with their sexuality.
She uses the stories as examples, to help her readers understand what they are possibly experiencing in their sex lives is normal, and there is a way to overcome their sexual obstacles.
Nagoksi breaks down concerns many women might have throughout their sexual lives. While explaining the sexual spectrum, women tend to fall on with age.
The author wrote each explanation within the book in detail, which painted a picture that helped readers understand the following; what they are experiencing, changes in their bodies, how to overcome a situation and the cause and effects of context in intimate relationships.
There are many references throughout the book that goes into further detail on concerns women might have, and also worksheets at the end of each chapter.
The 417-page book is in the first person. The writing style is casual, and Nagoski includes her thoughts in the book, which allows the reader to feel as if they are sitting with the author. Nagoski’s casual writing style allows the reader to gain confidence by always reminding them no matter what they are experiencing; they are “normal.”
I enjoyed Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life. The formatting of the book allowed me to go back for reference. The stories used in the book were entertaining, and although there are lessons throughout the book, I didn’t feel like I was reading to learn, I was reading for pleasure.
However, there were some things I didn’t like about the authors writing style. I felt Nagoski made it a little too personal. Although she used many examples and references, which were all factual and proven analysis, her writing style was too relaxed for me.
Since she is a professor, I understand why she had to make the overall narrative personal due to most of her research coming from her own experiences with her students. I felt that Nagoski should’ve focused more on the studies and left out her side comments and jokes.
I believe if she left out her remarks, it would’ve given the reader a chance to develop their own ideas for exploration of themselves.
Overall, I would recommend the book to someone who is having trouble accepting themselves sexually. Come As You Are, was written for a woman or man who might be confused, or wants a better understanding of how human bodies sexually work in the real world.
I also believe if a person wanted to get into sex education, this is a book to check out. It helps you understand the spectrum of women’s sexuality a little better, how to give answers to their issues, and tips.